Marla, this was powerful. I really appreciated how this poem compares the grief process to leaving evangelicalism to the grief process of a marriage ending---holding space for the feelings of heartbreak at the good things that were lost and for the feelings of saying goodbye to the toxic parts of a previous situation. I've been struck by how many break-up songs speak to me on this whole new level since my deconstruction: I've been singing through Olivia Rodrigo's Sour and Taylor Swift's Reputation throughout the process of stepping away from evangelicalism. Peace on the both/and grief journey!

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