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Nicki Newell's avatar

I realised that in trying to stave off despair I wasn't letting myself grieve. I'm learning grief is an act of resistance, it's disruptive and allows us to acknowledge the wound. Only once we feel our grief, our collective pain can we start to move in the direction of fighting together for a better world and for healing. I'm definitely going to make some at with the work "fuck" though. That does sound cathartic.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

Yes yes yes!! I cried for two days straight when he was first elected and have had several times of grief since. It’s so important. ❤️‍🩹

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Christine Greenwald's avatar

When feeling angry and despairing, that Ezra Klein podcast was SO helpful. I also want to listen to the full Timothy Snyder videos about tyranny!

One day at a time. Encouraging to see the resistance showing up!

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Marla Taviano's avatar

One day at a time. ❤️👊🏼

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Stephanie Ascough's avatar

Needed this reminder! Feel into the despair hole so bad yesterday I was dealing with a little ol case of ‘I would like to not wake up’. If I leave, I can’t resist.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

So much love to you, friend. ❤️

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Lindsey Melden's avatar

Making art. Taking naps. Gathering w friends. I feel like I’m making up for lost Covid time - I’m an introvert but want to hold hands with all my friends. Made a playlist of freedom/protest/love songs. Thanks for sharing your light with us. 💗

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Marla Taviano's avatar

I looooove this. I want to hold hands with all my friends too. 🩵

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June's avatar

Well, I had my tubes removed on Tuesday, so I’m feeling a little safer. Still, this is insanity with no end in sight. I have kids who have autism diagnoses and one who identifies with the LGBTQ community, and I’m worried for them. Trying to take it one day at a time.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

I love you, friend. 🩵

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Ivy Zeller's avatar

Love this. We will not obey, we will not spiral. We will exist and love together.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

Yes!!! 💜💜💜

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Jenn's avatar

"making art also helps." Sure does.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

🩵🩵🩵

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Stephanie Ascough's avatar

Also, this is a genuine question meant in love & curiosity: is it ok to call a person, even one as deplorable as that guy, a piece of shit? I’m torn between ‘he deserves it’ and ‘is this dehumanizing? Becoming like those we hate?’ I guess it is a form of punching up.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

Great question. “Piece of shit” is not something I throw around lightly. He is unfeeling, uncaring, selfish (etc etc etc) AND has the power to cause untold harm and has already done so. So, yes, punching up. A better woman might choose to see his “innate god-given dignity” but not me. He’s abusing his power, and I’m using my words. ❤️

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Stephanie Ascough's avatar

Also…sorry for that jump scare ‘meant in love’! I reread that line and gagged 😅

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Marla Taviano's avatar

Jump scare lol 🤣😘

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Stephanie Ascough's avatar

I know you would never throw words around lightly-you’re a poet, after all❤️thanks for your answer.

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Paul Heatley's avatar

I started writing a poem! I'll send it to you when it's done.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

It’s beautiful!! 💜

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