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Ivy Zeller's avatar

Thank you for putting this experience into words! "God has a plan" always irritates me. These days, I replace that phrase with things like, "That sucks" or "You didn't deserve that" or "I hope another better opportunity comes along" or "You deserve happiness," etc., as appropriate for the situation.

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Keri's avatar

My Mom says "Don't let Satan steal your joy" ALL the time and I HATE/LOATHE, despise, cringe, ugh at it.

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Marla Taviano's avatar

UGH!!!!!!

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Camille's avatar

I can't quite pinpoint one thing because all the things make me cringe. lol, currently my body is retching at platitudes like "trust in the lord" and "cast your cares on him."

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Marla Taviano's avatar

yeah 🤮

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Liz Charlotte Grant's avatar

Awwww

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Marla Taviano's avatar

❤️

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June's avatar

I’ll be praying for you...can’t find a way to express I care about you, I want the best for you etc

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June's avatar

Or I’m with you? Can’t seem to replace it, so when I know the other person is a Christian and going through something hard I just say it already bc that’s the language they speak

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Marla Taviano's avatar

I do that too. Sometimes I say, “I don’t really pray much these days, but I’m praying for you.”

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Alise Chaffins's avatar

“Love on” is the one that triggers me pretty hard. I’ve been out for a WHILE, so I don’t remember a lot, but every now and again I’ll get into a conversation with someone who is still in it, and it is incredible how jargon-y it is. I ended up at a dinner across from someone who still attends a church I left more than a decade ago, and wow. It was like she was speaking a whole other language. I think she thought I still got it, but the whole time I was just thinking, “Did I actually sound like this???”

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Marla Taviano's avatar

“Did I actually sound like this???” I actually sounded like that. Have 62 journals to prove it.

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